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(Laughter) Like any good dad joke should. | (Śmiech) Typowy dla taty suchar. | en-pl |
More specifically, I identify as genderqueer. | Konkretnije, identifikujem se kao nebinaran. | en-sr |
And there are lots of ways to experience being genderqueer, but for me that means I don't really identify as a man or a woman. | A genderqueert sokféleképpen meg lehet élni, de számomra azt jelenti, hogy nem vagyok igazán se férfi, se nő. | en-hu |
I feel in between and sometimes outside of this gender binary. | 我感覺身在兩性中間， 有時還覺得在兩性之外。 | en-zh-tw |
And being outside of this gender binary means that sometimes I get "sired" and "ma'amed" in the span of less than an hour when I'm out doing everyday things like getting Cheerios. | 游离在两者之外 意味着我有时被认为是“先生”， 有时被认为是“女士” 哪怕就在我日常生活中， 不到一个小时内， 比如去买一盒麦片。 | en-zh-cn |
But this in between lane is where I'm most comfortable. | Ale właśnie w tej przestrzeni pomiędzy czuję się swojo. | en-pl |
This space where I can be both a sir and a ma'am feels the most right and the most authentic. | در این فضا که میتوانم هم آقا و هم خانم باشم احساس درستترین و اصیلترین را میکنم. | en-fa |
But it doesn't mean that these interactions aren't uncomfortable. | 但这并不意味着 所有的互动都令人舒服。 | en-zh-cn |
Trust me, the discomfort can range from minor annoyance to feeling physically unsafe. | Verujte mi, neprijatnost može ići od manje nelagodnosti do osećaja fizičke nebezbednosti. | en-sr |
Like the time at a bar in college when a bouncer physically removed me by the back of the neck and threw me out of a woman's restroom. | como en un bar en la universidad cuando un gorila me sacó por el cuello y me echó del baño de mujeres. | en-es |
But for me, authenticity doesn't mean "comfortable." | Mais « authenticité » ne veut pas dire « agréable ». | en-fr |
It means managing and negotiating the discomfort of everyday life, even at times when it's unsafe. | Это означает борьбу с трудностями в повседневной жизни, даже когда это небезопасно. | en-ru |
And it wasn't until my experience as a trans person collided with my new identity as a parent that I understood the depth of my vulnerabilities and how they are preventing me from being my most authentic self. | Trans olma deneyimim yeni ebeveyn kimliğimle çarpışana kadar kırılganlığımın derinliklerini ve benim nasıl en gerçek olan ben olmamı önlediğini anlamamıştım. | en-tr |
Now, for most people, what their child will call them is not something that they give much thought to outside of culturally specific words or variations on a gendered theme like "mama," "mommy," or "daddy," "papa." | 對大部分人來說， 他們的孩子要如何稱呼他們， 是不用多想的事情， 用文化上很明確的用詞即可， 或性別稱謂的其他同義詞， 如「媽媽」、「媽咪」、 「爹地」、「爸爸」。 | en-zh-tw |
But for me, the possibility is what this child, who will grow to be a teenager and then a real-life adult, will call me for the rest of our lives, was both extremely scary and exciting. | De számomra a kérdés, hogy ez a gyermek, aki később tinédzserré, majd igazi felnőtt emberré cseperedik hogy fog szólítani egész életünkben, egyszerre volt hihetetlenül félelmetes és izgalmas. | en-hu |
And I spent nine months wrestling with the reality that being called "mama" or something like it didn't feel like me at all. | J'ai passé 9 mois aux prises avec le fait qu'être appelé « maman » ou une chose similaire ne me ressemblait pas. | en-fr |
And no matter how many times or versions of "mom" I tried, it always felt forced and deeply uncomfortable. | И сколько бы вариантов «мамы» мне ни попадалось, всё это казалось неестественным и неудобным. | en-ru |
I knew being called "mom" or "mommy" would be easier to digest for most people. | Sabía que ser llamado "mamá" o "mami" sería más fácil de digerir para la mayoría de las personas. | en-es |
The idea of having two moms is not super novel, especially where we live. | فكرة وجود والدتان ليست غريبة جداً، خصيصاً حيث نسكن. | en-ar |
So I tried other words. | A inne słowa? | en-pl |
And when I played around with "daddy," it felt better. | "Baba" kelimesini kullandığımda daha iyi hissettirdi. | en-tr |
Better, but not perfect. | Лучше, но не идеально. | en-ru |
It felt like a pair of shoes that you really liked but you needed to wear and break in. | 感覺就像一雙你真的很喜歡的鞋子， 但你得穿它、適應它。 | en-zh-tw |
And I knew the idea of being a female-born person being called "daddy" was going to be a harder road with a lot more uncomfortable moments. | Oczywiście bycie "tatą" z żeńską płcią urodzeniową rysowało się jako trudniejszy wybór i cięższa droga. | en-pl |
But, before I knew it, the time had come and Elliot came screaming into the world, like most babies do, and my new identity as a parent began. | Не успели мы опомниться, как пришло время, и Эллиот с криком появилась на свет, как и большинство детей, и моя новая жизнь родителя началась. | en-ru |
I decided on becoming a daddy, and our new family faced the world. | I moja rodzina rozpoczęła dalsze życie ze mną jako "tatą". | en-pl |
Now one of the most common things that happens when people meet us is for people to "mom" me. | Une des choses habituelles qui arrivent en rencontrant des gens est qu'ils m'appellent « maman ». | en-fr |
And when I get "momed", there are several ways the interaction can go, and I've drawn this map to help illustrate my options. | I kiedy mnie mamują, dalej idzie różnie, a możliwe opcje przedstawia ta przygotowana przeze mnie mapa. | en-pl |
(Laughter) So, option one is to ignore the assumption and allow folks to continue to refer to me as "mom," which is not awkward for the other party, but is typically really awkward for us. | (Risate) Opzione uno: ignorare la loro supposizione e permettere loro di continuare a riferirsi a me come "mamma", il che non è problematico per gli altri, ma in genere lo è molto per noi. | en-it |
And it usually causes me to restrict my interaction with those people. | 私の場合 そういう人とは話もしなくなります | en-ja |
Option one. | كان ذلك الخيار الأول. | en-ar |
Option two is to stop and correct them and say something like, "Actually, I'm Elliot's dad" or "Elliot calls me 'daddy.'" And when I do this, one or two of the following things happen. | 方案二就是阻止并纠正他们， 告诉他们， “其实，我是埃利奥特的父亲”， 或者“埃利奥特叫我爹地。” 当我这么说之后， 接下来会有一到两种情况。 | en-zh-cn |
Folks take it in stride and say something like, "Oh, OK." | 他们会接受我的说法， 说，“哦，好吧。” | en-zh-cn |
And move on. | Majd minden megy tovább. | en-hu |
Or they respond by apologizing profusely because they feel bad or awkward or guilty or weird. | یا آنها با عذرخواهی زیادی جواب میدهند چون که احساس بد، ناخوشایند، گناهکار یا عجیبی دارند. | en-fa |
But more often, what happens is folks get really confused and look up with an intense look and say something like, "Does this mean you want to transition? | 하지만 가장 흔한 반응은 사람들이 굉장히 어리둥절해하며 진지한 표정을 짓고선 이런 말을 하는 거예요. "성전환을 하고 싶으신 거예요? | en-ko |
Do you want to be a man?" | Vuoi diventare un uomo?" | en-it |
Or say things like, "How can she be a father? | 或是說： 「她怎麼能當父親？ | en-zh-tw |
Only men can be dads." | Csak férfiak lehetnek apák." | en-hu |
Well, option one is oftentimes the easier route. | A opção um é muitas vezes o caminho mais fácil. | en-pt-br |
Option two is always the more authentic one. | ２つ目の選択肢のほうが 常に 事実に近いです | en-ja |
And all of these scenarios involve a level of discomfort, even in the best case. | Ama bütün bu senaryolara en iyi durumlarda bile rahatsızlık duygusu ekleniyor. | en-tr |
And I'll say that over time, my ability to navigate this complicated map has gotten easier. | Powiem, że chociaż nauka trochę potrwała, to już łatwiej mi przechodzić przez tę mapę. | en-pl |
But the discomfort is still there. | De még mindig kényelmetlen. | en-hu |
Now, I won't stand here and pretend like I've mastered this, it's pretty far from it. | Ora, non starò qui a fingere di essere diventato un esperto, ne sono ben lontano. | en-it |
And there are days when I still allow option one to take place because option two is just too hard or too risky. | و هنوز روزهایی هستند که من میگذارم گزینه اول اتفاق بیفتد زیرا گزینه دوم خیلی سخت یا خیلی خطرناک است. | en-fa |
There's no way to be sure of anyone's reaction, and I want to be sure that folks have good intentions, that people are good. | No hay forma de estar seguro de la reacción de nadie, y quiero estar seguro de que la gente tenga buenas intenciones, que las personas son buenas. | en-es |
But we live in a world where someone's opinion of my existence can be met with serious threats to me or even my family's emotional or physical safety. | Birinin benim varlığım hakkındaki düşüncesinin benim ve ailemin duygusal ve fiziksel güvenliği için tehdit oluşturabileceği bir dünyadayız. | en-tr |
So I weigh the costs against the risks and sometimes the safety of my family comes before my own authenticity. | Итак, я взвешиваю цену и риски, и иногда безопасность моей семьи важнее, чем моё самоопределение. | en-ru |
But despite this risk, I know as Elliot gets older and grows into her consciousness and language skills, if I don't correct people, she will. | Pero a pesar de este riesgo, sé que a medida que Elliot crece también en sus habilidades de conciencia y lengua, si no corrijo a las personas, ella lo hará. | en-es |
I don't want my fears and insecurities to be placed on her, to dampen her spirit or make her question her own voice. | Não quero que meus medos e inseguranças sejam colocados nela para reprimir seu espírito e fazê-la questionar sua própria voz. | en-pt-br |
I need to model agency, authenticity and vulnerability, and that means leaning into those uncomfortable moments of being "momed" and standing up and saying, "No, I'm a dad. | Treba da budem primer snage, autentičnosti i ranjivosti, a to znači da se upustim u neprijatne trenutke kada me oslove sa „mama,“ da se odbranim i kažem: „Ne, ja sam tata. | en-sr |
And I even have the dad jokes to prove it." | Čak se i šalim da bih to dokazao.“ | en-sr |
(Laughter) Now, there have already been plenty of uncomfortable moments and even some painful ones. | (Kahkahalar) Şimdiye kadar birçok rahatsız edici ve acı veren an oldu. | en-tr |
But there's also been, in just two short years, validating and at times transformative moments on my journey as a dad and my path towards authenticity. | قانونی شدن سفر من به عنوان یک پدر و مسیر من به سمت اصالت وجود داشته. | en-fa |
When we got our first sonogram, we decided we wanted to know the sex of the baby. | Kada smo išli na prvi ultrazvuk, odlučili smo da želimo da znamo pol bebe. | en-sr |
The technician saw a vulva and slapped the words "It's a girl" on the screen and gave us a copy and sent us on our way. | رأى الفني العورة وقال "إنها فتاة." على الشاشة وأعطانا صورة ورحلنا. | en-ar |
We shared the photo with our families like everyone does and soon after, my mom showed up at our house with a bag filled -- I'm not exaggerating, it was like this high and it was filled, overflowing with pink clothes and toys. | 像其他人一样， 我们把照片发给家里人看了， 很快，我妈妈拎着个大袋子 就到了我家， 一点也不夸张， 那个袋子有这么高， 装满了粉色的衣服和玩具。 | en-zh-cn |
Now I was a little annoyed to be confronted with a lot of pink things, and having studied gender and spent countless hours teaching about it in workshops and classrooms, I thought I was pretty well versed on the social construction of gender and how sexism is a devaluing of the feminine and how it manifests both explic... | Bosszús voltam, ahogy szembesültem a sok rózsaszín holmival, mert mint genderszakos, megszámlálhatatlan órát töltöttem erről tanítva workshopokon és órákon, és azt gondoltam, igen jártas lettem a nem társadalmi megítélésében, és hogy a szexizmus hogyan tárgyiasítja a nőiességet, és hogy ez hogyan jelenik meg expliciten... | en-hu |
But this situation, this aversion to a bag full of pink stuff, forced me to explore my rejection of highly feminized things in my child's world. | Ali ova situacija, ova averzija prema torbi punoj roze stvari, naterala me je da ispitam odbacivanje jako feminiziranih stvari u svetu svog deteta. | en-sr |
I realized that I was reinforcing sexism and the cultural norms I teach as problematic. | Rájöttem, hogy a szexizmust erősítem, a normákat, amelyeket problematikusnak tartok. | en-hu |
No matter how much I believed in gender neutrality in theory, in practice, the absence of femininity is not neutrality, it's masculinity. | Koliko god sam verovao u rodnu neutralnost u teoriji, u praksi, odsustvo ženstvenosti nije neutralnost, već muževnost. | en-sr |
If I only dress my baby in greens and blues and grays, the outside world doesn't think, "Oh, that's a cute gender-neutral baby." | 子供に青や緑やグレーの服だけ 着せたとしても 周りは「かわいいジェンダーニュートラルな 赤ちゃんね」とは思いません | en-ja |
They think, "Oh, what a cute boy." | آنها میگویند "چه پسر قشنگی." | en-fa |
So my theoretical understanding of gender and my parenting world collided hard. | 所以，我對於性別理論的了解 和我教養子女的世界用力地相撞。 | en-zh-tw |
Yes, I want a diversity of colors and toys for my child to experience. | 그래요.저는 제 아이가 경험할 다양한 색과 장난감을 원합니다. | en-ko |
I want a balanced environment for her to explore and make sense of in her own way. | 그녀가 균형 잡힌 세상을 탐구하고 자기만의 방식으로 이해하길 바랍니다. | en-ko |
We even picked a gender-neutral name for our female-born child. | Nawet jej imię jest w krajach anglojęzycznych neutralne płciowo. | en-pl |
But gender neutrality is much easier as a theoretical endeavor than it is as a practice. | De gendersemlegességre törekedni könnyebb elméletben, mint gyakorlatban. | en-hu |
And in my attempts to create gender neutrality, I was inadvertently privileging masculinity over femininity. | I tak ze starań o budowanie neutralności płciowej wyszło mi priorytetyzowanie męskości kosztem kobiecości. | en-pl |
So, rather than toning down or eliminating femininity in our lives, we make a concerted effort to celebrate it. | 因此我们并没有减少或者消除 生活中的女性气质， 而是通过多种努力来拥抱它。 | en-zh-cn |
We have pinks among the variety of colors, we balance out the cutes with handsomes and the prettys with strongs and smarts and work really hard not to associate any words with gender. | W naszej palecie kolorów jest też i różowy, tyle samo jest "słodziutka" i "przystojna", tyle samo "śliczna", co "silna" czy "mądra". Bardzo się staramy nie kojarzyć żadnych słów z płcią kulturową. | en-pl |
We value femininity and masculinity while also being highly critical of it. | 우리는 여성성과 남성성 모두 가치 있다고 생각하면서도 비판적으로 보기도 합니다. | en-ko |
And do our best to not make her feel limited by gender roles. | 我们竭尽所能让她不觉得 被自己的性别所限制。 | en-zh-cn |
And we do all this in hopes that we model a healthy and empowered relationship with gender for our kid. | 以上の取り組みはすべて ジェンダーとの 健全で自立した関係の 手本を子供に見せるためです | en-ja |
Now this work to develop a healthy relationship with gender for Elliot made me rethink and evaluate how I allowed sexism to manifest in my own gender identity. | Este esfuerzo de desarrollar una relación saludable con el género para Elliot me hizo repensar y evaluar cómo permití que el sexismo se manifestara en mi propia identidad de género. | en-es |
I began to reevaluate how I was rejecting femininity in order to live up to a masculinity that was not healthy or something I wanted to pass on. | Počeo sam da preispitujem kako sam odbacivao ženstvenost kako bih dostigao muževnost koja nije bila zdrava niti nešto što sam želeo da prenesem dalje. | en-sr |
Doing this self-work meant I had to reject option one. | Hacer este autotrabajo significaba que tenía que rechazar la opción 1. | en-es |
I couldn't ignore and move on. | Görmezden gelemedim ve devam ettim. | en-tr |
I had to choose option two. | Tuve que elegir la opción 2. | en-es |
I had to engage with some of my most uncomfortable parts to move towards my most authentic self. | Meg kellett barátkoznom legkellemetlenebb részeimmel, hogy rátaláljak leghitelesebb énemre. | en-hu |
And that meant I had to get real about the discomfort I have with my body. | А это означало, что мне надо признаться в комплексах, касающихся моего тела. | en-ru |
It's pretty common for trans people to feel uncomfortable in their body, and this discomfort can range from debilitating to annoying and everywhere in between. | 跨性别人的身体经常会感到不舒服， 这种不舒服的程度， 从虚弱无力到令人厌烦 以及中间的某种程度。 | en-zh-cn |
And learning my body and how to be comfortable in it as a trans person has been a lifelong journey. | E imparare a sentirmi a mio agio nel mio corpo come persona trans è un viaggio che dura tutta la vita. | en-it |
I've always struggled with the parts of my body that can be defined as more feminine -- my chest, my hips, my voice. | Siempre he luchado con las partes de mi cuerpo que pueden definirse como más femeninas: mi pecho, mis caderas, mi voz. | en-es |
And I've made the sometimes hard, sometimes easy decision to not take hormones or have any surgeries to change it to make myself more masculine by society's standards. | 場合によって困難でもあり 容易でもある決断をしました 社会が決める男らしさを 手に入れるための ホルモン服用や手術をしたりは しないという決断です | en-ja |
And while I certainly haven't overcome all the feelings of dissatisfaction, I realized that by not engaging with that discomfort and coming to a positive and affirming place with my body, I was reinforcing sexism, transphobia and modeling body shaming. | 雖然我肯定還沒有 克服所有不滿的感受， 但我了解到，若不去面對那種不舒服 並找到正面、肯定的方式 看待我的身體， 反而是在助長性別主義、 跨性別恐懼症、以及示範身體羞辱。 | en-zh-tw |
If I hate my body, in particular, the parts society deems feminine or female, I potentially damage how my kid can see the possibilities of her body and her feminine and female parts. | 親である私が自分の体を そして特に社会的に女らしいとされる 部分を嫌ってしまったら 子供自身の 自分の体や 女性的な部分についての考え方まで 狭めたり 悪影響を与えるかもしない | en-ja |
If I hate or am uncomfortable with my body, how can I expect my kid to love hers? | 如果我自己都恨或者说 不喜欢自己的身体， 我又怎么能期待 自己的孩子爱她的身体？ | en-zh-cn |
Now it would be easier for me to choose option one: to ignore my kid when she asks me about my body or to hide it from her. | Könnyebb lenne az első opcióval élni, ignorálni a gyerekem kérdését a testemről vagy eltakarni magam, | en-hu |
But I have to choose option two every day. | Mais je dois choisir la seconde option chaque jour. | en-fr |
I have to confront my own assumptions about what a dad's body can and should be. | Szembe kell mennem a saját nézeteimmel, arról, milyen egy apa teste. | en-hu |
So I work every day to try and be more comfortable in this body and in the ways I express femininity. | 所以我每天都努力嘗試， 對這具身體以及我的女性化表現 感到更舒適一些， | en-zh-tw |
So I talk about it more, I explore the depths of this discomfort and find language that I feel comfortable with. | Zato o tome više pričam, istražujem dubine te neprijatnosti i pronalazim jezik koji mi je prijatan. | en-sr |
And this daily discomfort helps me build both agency and authenticity in how I show up in my body and in my gender. | و این ناراحتی هر روز به من کمک میکند تا عاملیت و اصالت را بسازم در چگونگی حضورم در بدن و جنسیتم. | en-fa |
I'm working against limiting myself. | Trabajando para no limitarme a mí mismo. | en-es |
I want to show her that a dad can have hips, a dad doesn't have to have a perfectly flat chest or even be able to grow facial hair. | パパに大きなお尻や 膨らんだ胸があっても ひげがなくてもいいんだと 娘に見せてあげたい | en-ja |
And when she's developmentally able to, I want to talk to her about my journey with my body. | És ha már elég érett lesz, beszélek vele arról, min mentem végig a testemmel. | en-hu |
I want her to see my journey towards authenticity even when it means showing her the messier parts. | Gerçek olma yolculuğumu onun görmesini istiyorum, daha karmaşık bölümleri göstermek zorunda olsam bile. | en-tr |
We have a wonderful pediatrician and have established a good relationship with our kid's doctor. | لدينا طبيب أطفال رائع وخلقنا علاقة جيدة معه. | en-ar |
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