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[367.22 --> 370.28] The focus there is on the worst case scenario, right?
[370.28 --> 378.84] So that's sort of leaning on the negative sides of an experience or environment rather than the positive sides.
[378.84 --> 388.46] Too often people only see or magnify the negative sides of something and not at all pay attention to or even acknowledge the good sides.
[389.10 --> 389.20] Yeah.
[389.30 --> 397.64] I mean, so I can talk about this in the sense of all of the data that I take in day to day that I've done over the years and years in which I've practiced therapy.
[397.82 --> 401.98] I mean, I hear of all the idiosyncratic situations which occur.
[401.98 --> 402.42] Yeah.
[404.24 --> 404.52] Yeah.
[404.72 --> 411.52] And so some of the things that my brain will pop up are based on what I've actually heard over the years.
[411.52 --> 417.70] And so I will imagine sort of the worst case scenario because guess what?
[417.98 --> 419.34] I've heard it.
[419.44 --> 421.64] I know that that's a possibility.
[422.20 --> 422.42] Right.
[422.42 --> 428.44] And so we'll get to this later in the show, but we'll talk about ways to navigate this.
[428.44 --> 438.52] But it really involves then talking back to myself, not just allowing that data piece to run if it doesn't work.
[439.04 --> 439.26] Right.
[439.48 --> 444.64] And so context is key of going, OK, like would that actually apply?
[444.64 --> 451.74] I mean, I could sit here and say, well, I live in the Pacific Northwest and I am afraid that Rainier is going to blow any day.
[453.14 --> 454.56] And there's some possibility.
[454.88 --> 454.96] Sure.
[455.04 --> 455.34] It is.
[455.56 --> 455.82] Sure.
[456.06 --> 461.08] But if I then focus on that possibility, wouldn't it change how I go about my day?
[461.56 --> 462.44] I would say so.
[462.54 --> 462.98] It should.
[463.42 --> 464.08] It should.
[464.32 --> 464.74] Right.
[464.84 --> 469.64] And so I would probably think I'm going to avoid that and I'm going to move somewhere else.
[469.64 --> 473.82] But then I'm just picking between earthquakes, hurricanes, tornadoes.
[473.82 --> 474.26] Yeah.
[474.94 --> 477.48] We have hurricanes here in Houston.
[478.00 --> 478.48] Often.
[478.62 --> 478.70] Yeah.
[479.12 --> 479.38] Yeah.
[479.64 --> 479.82] And so.
[480.02 --> 481.02] Floods even too because of it.
[481.12 --> 481.42] Jeez.
[481.76 --> 482.02] It's terrible.
[482.22 --> 482.32] Right.
[482.82 --> 494.52] And so, you know, some researchers have looked at this too when it comes to like losing a loved one, because obviously we've talked about loss in relationships and that that would feel wretched.
[494.88 --> 496.18] I mean, devastating.
[496.18 --> 503.20] Nobody creates a relationship, invest in it for the purpose of having that good connection go away.
[503.20 --> 503.84] Be destroyed.
[503.92 --> 504.06] Yeah.
[504.44 --> 504.68] Yeah.
[504.78 --> 516.66] And so when people have lost loved ones, what they found is that it actually helps them fare better when they practice gratitude instead of this catastrophe.
[516.66 --> 522.44] Like, as a parent, I can run all of the plausible plays that my brain can sort of conjure up.
[523.06 --> 527.38] But that doesn't help me parent any better because then I'm going to lead with this fear.
[527.38 --> 528.28] Mm-hmm.
[528.28 --> 533.22] And that's really the feeling tethered to this cognitive distortion is fear.
[533.74 --> 534.02] Yeah.
[534.38 --> 534.78] Right.
[534.84 --> 540.06] I'm afraid I'm going to lose someone or something I care about or that I'm going to be injured in some way.
[540.18 --> 545.56] So I'm going to imagine it so that I can then create a plan for how I'll navigate that.
[545.66 --> 551.50] And then I'm not really living alive because I'm worried about what could occur and might occur and getting prepped.
[551.56 --> 552.48] Versus what is.
[552.48 --> 552.96] Yeah.
[553.28 --> 553.60] Yeah.
[554.32 --> 554.84] Yeah.
[554.92 --> 561.64] So it really takes me out of real time, which is sad because then I lose out on all sorts of things.
[561.86 --> 562.22] Yeah.
[562.52 --> 563.36] That I could enjoy.
[563.36 --> 570.88] Something you said there, and I'm wondering what your thoughts are on this, is this idea of talking to yourself.
[571.42 --> 573.22] You know, sort of having a relationship with yourself.
[573.38 --> 586.80] This, you know, examining and taking stock of your thoughts and the way you think, to me, seems, you know, almost like, you know, is somebody crazy, for lack of better terms, for talking to themselves.
[586.80 --> 588.84] Like, maybe out loud, that might seem.
[589.38 --> 589.56] Yeah.
[589.66 --> 591.16] But is it normal to talk to yourself?
[591.26 --> 596.44] Is that sort of, like, borderlining on what we're talking about here, like, talking to yourself, having a relationship with yourself?
[596.82 --> 597.04] No.
[597.16 --> 599.20] We all have different aspects to ourselves.
[599.40 --> 602.80] And so can that be distorted and, you know, maladaptive?
[603.44 --> 603.66] Sure.
[603.74 --> 607.90] It would look like, at the most extreme form, like a dissociative identity disorder.
[607.90 --> 611.58] Like, there's John and Billy Joe and Susie.
[611.70 --> 613.56] Like, I have all these multiple personalities.
[613.98 --> 617.48] And it's really just sort of this fragmentation of oneself.
[617.86 --> 618.22] Yeah.
[618.32 --> 625.68] But for most neurotic individuals, most normal people, we talk to ourself, and we refer to that as, like, internal dialogue.
[626.40 --> 629.52] And so imagine that I have these differing aspects.
[629.52 --> 636.22] And so I'll go with this sort of health analogy of, like, I have one side of me that wants to be ridiculously healthy and make wise choices.
[636.56 --> 639.26] And then this other side of me that says, like, eat all the cake.
[639.36 --> 639.88] Eat the cake.
[639.88 --> 640.12] Right.
[640.22 --> 640.66] Okay.
[641.06 --> 641.92] Eat the chocolate.
[642.38 --> 651.40] And so I then have this other side of me that is, like, the mediator between these that goes, hey, you know, we can't be mean to either one of you.
[651.50 --> 651.90] Right.
[652.12 --> 653.62] Like, how do we practice sharing?
[653.62 --> 664.56] So when we have these sort of catastrophic thoughts that we practice talking back to our brain and saying, like, hey, compassion, compassionate response.
[664.56 --> 671.00] Like, I understand that you're feeling really fearful or worried right now, but here's some things you could do to help that.
[671.14 --> 676.28] Like, maybe there isn't a possibility that Rainier is probably going to blow today.
[676.38 --> 676.86] Right.
[677.36 --> 679.02] Or, you know what?
[679.22 --> 683.08] Why don't we be grateful for what we do have and that it hasn't done that yet?
[683.08 --> 686.38] And look at what you've got to enjoy while you've been living here.
[686.74 --> 687.14] Right.
[687.26 --> 688.54] So you're saying the word we, too.
[688.62 --> 691.56] So as if it's a unison inside.
[691.56 --> 691.76] Yeah.